"Failure to Launch", College, Parenting

Is Your Teen Ready for College?

Transitioning from high school to college can sometimes feel like a precarious leap, instead of the manageable next step in the journey to independence. Oftentimes, students who are successful in high school find the transition to college to be a challenge because the work is faster paced, the instruction is less specific, and the academics are more competitive. College requires students to be more independent, self-driven, and organized. Additionally, the social scene can feel intimidating and more stressful than in high school. Continue reading “Is Your Teen Ready for College?”

"Failure to Launch", College, Parenting

Four Paths to a Productive Gap Year

Not every adolescent is ready to tackle college right after high school. Instead of sending them off to college because it’s the norm, why not take a gap year to help better prepare them for the challenges they’ll face? Taking a gap year is normative in countries like Australia and the United Kingdom, and it seems like more teens in the United States are trying it out, too. Even Malia Obama took a gap year before starting at Harvard University! Continue reading “Four Paths to a Productive Gap Year”

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Are You Enabling Your Adult Child?

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“Why do parents keep enabling their kids?” a colleague once asked me. I looked at her with a bewildered look on my face. Parents financially support their emerging adult (18-29 year old) children for the same reason they do everything they do as parents… because they love their children (and often want to protect them from perceived hardship). Unfortunately, this well-intentioned support can sometimes morph into full-fledged enabling.

But how will you know the difference? Continue reading “Are You Enabling Your Adult Child?”

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Developmentally Appropriate Life Skills Your Child Needs to Have

You want the best for your child.  You want to shelter them from pain and suffering. It pains you to see them struggle.

Sometimes in our efforts to help our children get through life unscathed, we actually do them a disservice. We’re so busy getting them from point A to point B as a happy, healthy person that we might’ve helped them become a teen or young adult with no basic life skills or resilience. Paradoxically, by trying your best to help your child successfully deal with the trials and tribulations of life, you might have inadvertently set up your child to struggle in their young adulthood.

Continue reading “Developmentally Appropriate Life Skills Your Child Needs to Have”

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Help Prepare Your Teen for Adulthood

As high school graduation approaches, you may be wondering if you child is ready to take on all the responsibilities and pressures that come with adulthood. You might be especially worried because you’ve heard about the “failure to launch” crisis and “boomerang kid” trend that’s impacting so many families across the nation. It’s never too late to help your child become independent and more prepared for adulthood.

Here are some important skills to focus on: Continue reading “Help Prepare Your Teen for Adulthood”

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Survive and Thrive Living with Your Adult Child

When parents have children, they often think about all the great, big, wonderful things their children will achieve as adults. Imagine the shock when parents realize that their children will be doing these things while still living in the family home.

It’s becoming more and more common for young adult children to live at home while trying to achieve their dreams. Over 30% of emerging adults (18-29 year olds) are living at home in Los Angeles, with comparable numbers across the US. However, just because it’s becoming more common, doesn’t mean it’s easy to do. Continue reading “Survive and Thrive Living with Your Adult Child”