Need some support with your iGen tween or teen? Contact Dr. Crystal I. Lee for a free 20 minute consultation to see how she can help.
The US Census Bureau’s latest numbers show that over 35% of millennials in California still live at home. With so many young people never leaving home or returning home, a financial burden is put on their parents. Even for emerging adults (18-29 year olds) not living at home, parents are still financially helping them. Unfortunately, this sometimes results in parents taking on additional debt, delaying their life plans, or even postponing their retirement. Thankfully, there are specific things parents can do to lessen the financial burden. Read on to learn some dos and don’ts to financially support your emerging adult child. Continue reading “Dos and Don’ts to Financially Supporting an Emerging Adult”
You may have heard of the phenomenon called failure to launch. There are blogs out there touting that it’s a “syndrome”, making it sound like an actual diagnosis (which it is not!). I am encouraging everyone to stop slapping the failure to launch label on young people who are trying to find their way. It’s a negative term that pathologizes young people’s journey towards adulthood.
Successfully transitioning into adulthood is a process. Continue reading “Rejecting the Label “Failure to Launch””
The transition to college comes with lots of excitement… and usually also a hefty dose of anxiety. College is often the first time your child will live away from home and be entirely responsible for his or her life. Not only will he or she be handling more rigorous academics, but he or she will be navigating a new social scene, juggling more competing responsibilities than ever, and managing higher levels of stress. Without proper planning and support, your child may struggle or flounder. Continue reading “Ensuring a Smooth Transition from High School to College”
Transitioning from high school to college can sometimes feel like a precarious leap, instead of the manageable next step in the journey to independence. Oftentimes, students who are successful in high school find the transition to college to be a challenge because the work is faster paced, the instruction is less specific, and the academics are more competitive. College requires students to be more independent, self-driven, and organized. Additionally, the social scene can feel intimidating and more stressful than in high school. Continue reading “Is Your Teen Ready for College?”
Not every adolescent is ready to tackle college right after high school. Instead of sending them off to college because it’s the norm, why not take a gap year to help better prepare them for the challenges they’ll face? Taking a gap year is normative in countries like Australia and the United Kingdom, and it seems like more teens in the United States are trying it out, too. Even Malia Obama took a gap year before starting at Harvard University! Continue reading “Four Paths to a Productive Gap Year”
“Why do parents keep enabling their kids?” a colleague once asked me. I looked at her with a bewildered look on my face. Parents financially support their emerging adult (18-29 year old) children for the same reason they do everything they do as parents… because they love their children (and often want to protect them from perceived hardship). Unfortunately, this well-intentioned support can sometimes morph into full-fledged enabling.
But how will you know the difference? Continue reading “Are You Enabling Your Adult Child?”
You want the best for your child. You want to shelter them from pain and suffering. It pains you to see them struggle.
Sometimes in our efforts to help our children get through life unscathed, we actually do them a disservice. We’re so busy getting them from point A to point B as a happy, healthy person that we might’ve helped them become a teen or young adult with no basic life skills or resilience. Paradoxically, by trying your best to help your child successfully deal with the trials and tribulations of life, you might have inadvertently set up your child to struggle in their young adulthood.
As high school graduation approaches, you may be wondering if you child is ready to take on all the responsibilities and pressures that come with adulthood. You might be especially worried because you’ve heard about the “failure to launch” crisis and “boomerang kid” trend that’s impacting so many families across the nation. It’s never too late to help your child become independent and more prepared for adulthood.
Here are some important skills to focus on: Continue reading “Help Prepare Your Teen for Adulthood”