"Failure to Launch", Adulting, Parenting

Rejecting the Label “Failure to Launch”

You may have heard of the phenomenon called failure to launch. There are blogs out there touting that it’s a “syndrome”, making it sound like an actual diagnosis (which it is not!). I am encouraging everyone to stop slapping the failure to launch label on young people who are trying to find their way. It’s a negative term that pathologizes young people’s journey towards adulthood.

Successfully transitioning into adulthood is a process. Continue reading “Rejecting the Label “Failure to Launch””

College, Depression

Is it Depression or Just Normal College Stress?

depression vs college stress- therapy for college students

 

We thought it was just normal stress from being in college…

Unfortunately, precursors to a major depressive episode and depression often masquerade as “just normal college stress”. Sadly, the parents quoted above learned this the hard way. If they or their daughter had known what to look for, she could have gotten the help she needed and avoided withdrawing from college. Learn what signs to look for and get help before things get bad.  Continue reading “Is it Depression or Just Normal College Stress?”

Parenting

Four Essential Elements for Effective Consequences

Creating Effective Consequences for Children

Parents often ask me how to effectively create consequences for their teen or emerging adult child. In some ways, it’s the same as when you crafted consequences for your young child, but there are two really important differences. I thought about all the elements I’ve spoken to parents about over the years and created a list of the four essential considerations when creating effective consequences. Continue reading “Four Essential Elements for Effective Consequences”

College

Top 10 Things Colleges Look for in Applicants

College application time can be very stressful for the whole family, especially because sometimes it’s hard to predict what college are looking for. With the help of the Independent Educational Consultants Association’s (IECA) survey, let’s demystify what colleges are looking for in applicants. Below are the top ten strengths and experiences colleges look for (with my added commentary below each point). Continue reading “Top 10 Things Colleges Look for in Applicants”

College

Study Skills Backed by Science

As a psychologist that works with lots of college students, I see how important study skills are. Many of my clients discover that their high school study skills didn’t set them up for success in college. Even though they are capable students, they find themselves struggling in class. They become demoralized, their self-esteem takes a hit, and they may even find that their academic struggles stir up anxiety or trigger a depressive episode.

Fortunately, as a clinical psychologist, I studied learning and memory. If my clients are struggling, I give them a few research-backed study tips and refer out to a great educational therapist or skilled tutor if they need more specialized support.

So what are my favorite scientifically-grounded study skills? Continue reading “Study Skills Backed by Science”

"Failure to Launch", College, Parenting

Ensuring a Smooth Transition from High School to College

The transition to college comes with lots of excitement… and usually also a hefty dose of anxiety. College is often the first time your child will live away from home and be entirely responsible for his or her life. Not only will he or she be handling more rigorous academics, but he or she will be navigating a new social scene, juggling more competing responsibilities than ever, and managing higher levels of stress. Without proper planning and support, your child may struggle or flounder. Continue reading “Ensuring a Smooth Transition from High School to College”

College, Parenting

Pick the College that Fits You Best

As someone who works with emerging adults (18-20 year olds) already in college or graduated from college, I know how important college fit is. I’ve seen how a poor fit in terms of academics, campus community, and supports can really hurt a person’s ability to thrive in a college environment. I’ve also seen students who transferred to somewhere that’s a better fit were able to really flourish and make huge progress.

I don’t want to perpetuate the myth that there is a perfect college for everyone. However, I do think it’s important that people understand that not every college (no matter how prestigious or well known) is a good fit for every student. Picking a college that fits you best encompasses more considerations than just reputation and finances.

Here are some questions to consider when deciding if a college if the right fit for you: Continue reading “Pick the College that Fits You Best”

Adulting, Anxiety

3 Simple Tips to Conquer Phone Anxiety

More than ever, it seems like people are anxious about talking to people over the phone. When I was the director of an independent living program, I saw numerous residents become overwhelmed by anxiety when prompted to call someone. My clients in private practice also often report that same feeling of dread, preferring to email or text. Continue reading “3 Simple Tips to Conquer Phone Anxiety”